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Stuck in Grief: Six Signs That Your Heart Isn’t Healing and What to Do About It

Six Signs That Your Heart Isn’t Healing and What to Do About It Grief often sideswipes us out of nowhere. We don’t get to plan grief conveniently into our lives. Grief can be overwhelming and a huge disruption of our internal and external lives. Grief isn’t a one and done phenomenon, either. Most of us will face grief more than once in our lifetime. Grief is a part of life. None of us gets through this life untouched by grief. On average, people experience a significant loss every eight years. These losses are not limited to the death of a loved one either. Divorce, severe or long term illness, job termination, and infertility are just a few other events that...

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Children Grieve Too

How to Help a Child Heal from Loss Even though children are remarkably resilient, they experience grief.  They are susceptible to the same loss events adults may face.  Losing a loved one, a divorce in the family, or moving to a new home or school are just a few of the reasons children grieve.  Do not dismiss the depth of a child’s grief by believing that losses go over their head or they don’t understand what is going on. They do not need to have an adult understanding of life and circumstance to feel grief. I’ve seen it first-hand. I watched my son, at the age of two and a half, grieve when his sisters died. My social, brave, happy...

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Put Your Healing Game Face On

I have (and still am) finding healing for my heart since the deaths of my twin baby daughters Aubrey and Ellie in 2008. I've learned a few things along the way and wanted to pass on 7 pieces of advice that have helped me immeasurably. You won't find these in a book. Each one is from my heart, from my experience, and each one was a game-changer for me. Healing is no walk in the park. If you truly want healing for your heart you are going to have to fight for it. I can promise you that the reward is so worth the effort. Joy and peace are available to you. I am living proof that a beautiful life...

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How to Help Someone Who Is Hurting

Six things to do (and not to do) to comfort a loved one in emotional pain It is incredibly difficult to see someone we care about in pain. The desire to comfort the hurting can be overwhelming, but our well-intentioned attempts to lessen the pain often, unintentionally, increase it. I myself have felt the sting of words said to me by well-meaning people trying (but epically failing) to help me feel better. I am also quite sure I was guilty of being unhelpful to grievers before I became aware of these things since the deaths of my daughters. Unfortunately, there is a disconnect between our desire to help those we care about and our ability. Good intentions are simply not enough...

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The Meantime Until Fine

When hard or bad things happen it can be frustrating to be patted on the back and told, "Don't worry, everything will be okay." Although others mean well, it is hard to believe that everything will be ok when your life has been turned upside down by grief. I'm here to tell you that it won't always feel this painful. It really won't. The journey between grief and healing is not an easy road but relief will come. You must tuck hope away in our heart that healing really is possible and the pain will lift with the right support, tools, and information. Healing doesn't happen by magic. But it does happen. Your heart can heal.  The real question, the...

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